Myths You Probably Believe - Perineal Tearing (Vaginal Tearing) During Birth

Myths You Probably Believe - Perineal Tearing (Vaginal Tearing) During Birth

In the middle of all the excitement and anticipation, it's common for new moms to have concerns about vaginal tearing during birth. There's a lot of myths and misconceptions floating around that can muddy our understanding of this natural process.

In this blog post, we’ll see common myths surrounding vaginal tearing during birth and as a believer in the power of natural care, I'll share some tips and tricks that will help you embrace postpartum healing in a gentle and nurturing way. If you're a first-time mom or an experienced parent, knowledge is empowering, and being informed can make all the difference as you embark on this transformative adventure.

So, let's get real about vaginal tearing and learn how to promote a comfy postpartum journey with some awesome natural products.


Vaginal Tearing During Birth: Myths You Probably Believe in 
Myth #1: Perineal Massage during Pregnancy Prevents Tearing during Birth
Myth #2: Episiotomy Is Better Than Tearing
Myth #3: All Moms Tear or All First-Time Moms Tear
Tips & Tricks for Natural Postpartum Care
Celebrating the Beauty of Natural Postpartum Care

Vaginal Tearing During Birth: Myths You Probably Believe in 

In the journey of pregnancy and childbirth, there are numerous aspects to consider, and one that often sparks curiosity and concern is the possibility of vaginal tearing during birth. With so much information circulating, it's easy to fall into the trap of believing common myths. But fear not, dear moms, as we delve into these myths and separate fact from fiction, empowering you with the knowledge you need for a positive and informed birthing experience.

Myth #1: Perineal Massage during Pregnancy Prevents Tearing during Birth

You might have heard about perineal massage as a technique to prevent tearing during birth. While it can be beneficial for some moms, it's not a one-size-fits-all solution. Perineal massage involves gently stretching and massaging the perineum – the area between the vagina and anus – to increase its elasticity and reduce the risk of tearing during childbirth.

For certain moms, perineal massage can be helpful, especially for those with a history of sexual trauma or previous trauma in the perineal area. It provides an opportunity to practice breathing through the pressure of having the perineal skin stretched during crowning, promoting relaxation and preparedness for the birthing process.

However, it's essential to remember that there are alternative methods to prevent tearing that might suit your preferences better. One significant factor is birthing positions. Research suggests that delivering in positions other than lying on your back can significantly reduce the chances of tearing. Gravity can play a role in easing your baby out gently, minimizing strain on the perineum.

Additionally, focusing on your breathing during the crowning phase can make a difference. Embracing deep, controlled breaths and gentle pushes can help your body accommodate the birth naturally, minimizing the risk of tearing.

Myth #2: Episiotomy Is Better Than Tearing

An episiotomy is a surgical incision made in the perineum during childbirth to create a larger opening for the baby's passage. There was a time when episiotomy was a routine procedure, believed to prevent severe tearing. However, advancements in medical knowledge and practice have shed light on the potential drawbacks of episiotomies.

Contrary to popular belief, a natural tear may be more favorable for the healing process compared to an episiotomy. When a natural laceration occurs, the edges of the tear tend to be jagged, allowing for better and quicker healing. On the other hand, an episiotomy is a perfectly clean cut, which might heal together, but not as naturally as a tear.

Moreover, episiotomies can sometimes extend deeper and more extensively than natural tears, making the recovery process more challenging. Natural healing products, like the ones we'll explore later, can support the healing of natural tears, offering comfort and care during the postpartum period.

Myth #3: All Moms Tear or All First-Time Moms Tear

One of the most common misconceptions is the belief that all moms, especially first-time moms, will inevitably experience tearing during childbirth. However, this is not true for everyone. The likelihood of tearing can be influenced by various factors, including birthing positions and the individual's body preferences.

Choosing a birthing position that aligns with your body's needs and instincts can play a significant role in preventing tearing. When you're able to give birth in a position that feels comfortable and natural, your body can ease the baby out more gently, reducing the risk of tears.

Additionally, being in a supportive birthing environment where you're not rushed or pressured to deliver within a specific timeframe can make a difference. Giving your body the time it needs to naturally birth your baby can promote a gentle and calm birthing process.

To clear up these myths, it's important to remember that every birth experience is different. By choosing natural childbirth and using gentle, natural products for postpartum care, you can make the journey positive and empowering for you and your little one.

Tips & Tricks for Natural Postpartum Care

As you start your postpartum journey, it's key to have gentle and effective products on hand for healing and well-being. Nature offers some amazing gifts that can really nurture and support you during this transformative period. Let's take a look at two fantastic natural multipurpose products – "Wonder Spray" and "Honey Lavender Magic" – and see all the ways they can boost your postpartum care.

A. "Wonder Spray" – A Multipurpose Postpartum Essential

  1. Versatility and Benefits of Wonder Spray

Wonder Spray is a true elixir, serving as a multi-functional moisturizer and skin protector. Its gentle and effective formula delivers a soothing and nurturing touch to your postpartum experience. But its wonders don't stop there!


  1. Postpartum Stitches and Perineal Tear Treatment

 If a vaginal tear during childbirth happens, Wonder Spray comes to the rescue in providing relief and support for postpartum stitches and perineal tears. Its gentle formula helps alleviate discomfort and encourages natural healing, allowing you to focus on bonding with your precious little one without unnecessary discomfort.

  1. Other Uses – Acne Treatment, Headache Relief, Room Mist Spray

The benefits of Wonder Spray extend far beyond postpartum care. As a natural acne treatment, it can assist in combating pesky breakouts with its antibacterial properties. Additionally, its lavender-infused aroma offers relaxation and headache relief, making it a delightful room mist spray for a calming ambiance.

It is a magical product.

This magical product (yes, magic is the word) was suggested to me by a senior doula and a hypnobirthing teacher I was in touch with at the time. After giving birth to my 2nd child, she visited me to see how I was doing. 

Since we both shared the love and interest for essential oils, she introduced me to the king of all oils: the Frankincense, and suggested diluting it in water.  Little that I know about the greatness of this oil; after deep research for its benefit and qualities, I discovered that this oil was first mentioned in the Bible as one of the main oils the high priests used in the temple for spiritual ceremonies and rituals, as well as for healing. its benefits are countless: treating inflammation, anti-aging, balancing, and moisturizing (and many health benefits in between). 

To complement the formula, I used high vibrational healing water* and added pure lavender oil. I created a formula that I believed effective and used it on myself. The feeling was amazing. I felt refreshed, recovered, and healed as the days went by. The combination of frankincense and the unique water did wonders for my body, and I loved this product. It was only natural to want to share this with the world!

A powerful tool for healing

Soon after, I gave another friend who happened to be a busy doula to try the product on her clients, and the results were just incredible. The excellent feedback started to flow, and everyone was amazed. Undoubtedly, this could be such a powerful healing tool after labor.

B. "Honey Lavender Magic" a Healing Miracle

Lital Demostration - Honey Lavender Magic This organic balm helps relieve perineal tears and postpartum pain, reduces swelling and pressure-like sensations and speeds up healing time. It is perfect for emergency use for bruises, stitches, cuts, swellings, and bumps, and even for DIY skin & face care.


Our Honey Lavender Magic is a multifunctional moisturizer and skin protector. Its gentle and effective formula with Honey and Lavender essential oil +  Love & Healing Vibes makes it perfect to use as a first Aid Ointment in emergencies. It is definitely a unique product that is good for: 

  • Perineal tear treatment

Thanks to honey and lavender magic healing properties it may reduce swelling, pressure-like sensations, healing time, and even relieve postpartum pain. The best part is that is not sticky and it is completely safe for new mothers as well as for babies. 

Try it:  You can use Honey Lavender Magic every time you go to the bathroom during the day and overnight by spreading it onto a clean panty liner.

  • Wound healer

This ointment can work wonders for bruises, swelling, bumps, cuts, and bruises. Simply clean the wound and apply Honey Lavender Magic before closing it securely. This natural sweetness will do the magic before you know it. In addition to this, it prevents infections caused by bacteria due to the powerful antibacterial properties of honey and lavender. 

  • Scar Fader

The antioxidant properties in honey help repair damaged skin and speed up scar healing. And for the added bonus of anti-inflammation, lavender essential oil will help tone down the appearance of stretch marks and discolorations on the skin.

Try it: Apply Honey Lavender Magic directly to the affected area, massaging in a circular motion for one to two minutes. You can leave it on for a while or rinse it off after few minutes.

  • DIY skin & face care

Our Honey Lavender magic has a calming effect that moisturizes and soothes skin, leaving it feeling soft, radiant, and glowing. You can use it in your face care routine as a: 

  • Gentle Exfoliant

As honey has tiny granules, it can gently exfoliate your skin. Once they are in contact with your skin's heat, they begin breaking down, creating a gentler scrub than store-bought products. Also, its antibacterial properties make it ideal for daily use as a face wash.

Try it: Mix the Honey Lavender Magic with baking soda and lemon (1 tablespoon of each one) and apply directly on the skin in circular motions after warming it in your hands. Let it stay on for 15-25 minutes before removing it with a damp towel. You will get amazing results.

  • Acne Spot Treatment

Honey is an effective DIY remedy for acne. Combined with lavender, it ensures that its antibacterial qualities help fight acne-causing bacteria. It is also an anti-inflammatory, which can help reduce the swelling and redness of pimples. 

Additionally,  Honey Lavender Magic helps control oil production by keeping the skin well hydrated and balanced

Try it: Apply raw honey directly to the breakout, allow it to sit for 10 to 15 minutes, then wash it off.

  • Ingrown toenail Infection

Honey Lavender Magic is a very effective and easy to use solution for ingrown, painful toenails and infected nails. Honey is a natural medicine that has antibacterial and antiseptic properties. It is recommended against toenail infection because it impedes the growth of microbes and prevents the spread of germs in the environment. In addition, as a humectant, it remains moist on the skin and helps keep it hydrated while warding off microbial attacks. 

How it came to me...

After giving birth to my first child, my doula came to visit me at the house to see how I am doing and how my recovery is going. She gave me a jar and said there was honey and lavender in it, and that I should use it as needed for the time of recovery. 

She explained that this is a postpartum remedy that has passed through generations from our great-grandmas till today, and that it's not sticky. What did I have to lose?

 I felt okay considering I was one week after labor but was ready to feel great. So I gave it a chance. 

The instructions were to spread it on the panty liner during the day. I was amazed at how well It worked, how great I felt, and that indeed it wasn't sticky at all. It was very healing and felt right.

A healing miracle

A good friend of mine just gave birth to her second child, in v-back labor (her first labor was a c- section). Needless to say, it was very painful and many stitches were done. A few days after the delivery she still couldn’t sit or walk properly. 

Being a good friend, I prepared 2 bottles for her with the products. She immediately felt relief! After 2 days only, she could walk and sit, she could also smile again and simply enjoy her newborn, without any trace of discomfort! Her recovery was fast and smooth. She couldn’t believe the difference with and without the products, and most importantly how fast they work! 

 That made me think “why can’t other women enjoy a natural rapid relief after birth?” 

Us moms deserve it! That thought led me to create this line of products to help women heal.

Celebrating the Beauty of Natural Postpartum Care


I hope you're feeling more informed, empowered, and ready to dive into the power of natural postpartum care. By clearing up myths, embracing gentle birthing practices, and bringing in nurturing products, you're paving the way for a positive postpartum experience.

Remember, every birth is unique, and no matter the path, you've got strength, resilience, and a whole lot of grace for motherhood. It's a journey filled with highs, lows, and endless wonders. And through it all, you're not alone – there's a tribe of moms cheering you on, sharing stories, and lifting each other up.

Embrace this transformative phase, savor those precious moments with your little one, and don't forget to take care of yourself along the way. By prioritizing your well-being and bringing in natural, multipurpose products like "Wonder Spray" and "Honey Lavender Magic," you're giving yourself and your family the gentle care they deserve.

From the bottom of my heart, I wish you love, joy, and a whole lot of beautiful moments with your little one. May your postpartum journey be filled with love, support, and the magic of natural care. Trust your instincts, mama, and know that you're doing an incredible job. You've got this!

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